Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Bukan Kerana Kasihan (Kesian) - 2
* Sumbangan dari Bukan Kerana Kasihan (Kesian) - 1
- Kerja -
"Saya kesian dia. Tak pernah dpt kerja. Duit tak ada. So saya ambik la budak tu kerja."... or maybe... "Saya kesian dia... dia cantik. So dia jadi la secretary saya"... Kalau macam ni la boss nya... Huh... alamat susah la kampeni.
Betul, ada yg cantik dan yg miskin tapi pandai buat kerja. But situasi yg aku cerita ni. Kesian... sebab kita ambil kerja atas alasan selain dari kemahiran mereka bekerja. Emosi kontrol diri kita utk ambil org kerja sbb hal lain. Bukan sebab keupayaannya...
Masa aku amek HR. Ada la beberapa faktor yg menyebabkan interviewer melakukan kesilapan. Kesilapan yg boleh menyebabkan kampeni susah. Maksud aku, sebagai manusia. Kita lakukan kesilapan ini disebabkan oleh kelemahan macam emosi, bias, pro etc etc blablabla... Tapi, kalau kita ambil org kerja melalui peperiksaan or assesment je pun susah. Ada org yg baik bekerja mungkin tak pandai jawab paper. Salesman yg baik biasanya tak suka amek2 paper nih. Kemahirannya lebih pada bercakap. Tak percaya... Tanya la mamat2 or minah yg jual barang RM10 masa tgh makan. Dia org punya SPM berapa? Ada yg hancur. Tapi, bab sales... power! Ngalah yg ada master dlm marketing lak. So... bukanlah takleh nak interview takleh nak assesment. Just, jangan terlalu melibatkan perkara luaran yg boleh merugikan kampeni.
Kengkadang... Calon, ada yg cun gile. Waahh... naik juling mata interviewer... Nak mintak jawatan programmer... Tapi bila suruh terangkan. Gagap! Tapi... sebab cun ambik la... So nanti kalau yg temuduga atau bakal bos tu nanti boleh le tolong programkan awek cun ni tadi. Kononnya, bodoh sikit takpe nanti boleh belajar. Hantar gi course. Huh... bangkrap la kampeni... nak ajar, hantar course etc... dah berapa? Lepas tu... sebab bos tak reti wat program ngan baik. Dia mintak kerja tempat lain ngan alasan yg sama... satu hapah kampeni tak dapat ape. Abis duit je... Pekerja yg baik pun tak dpt.. Ceh...
Yg datang ngan muka kesian. Muka seposen... Kita kasik kerja. Dengan harapan, kita tolong dier atas dasar mereka memang mempunyai keupayaan untuk menolong diri sendiri selain meningkatkan lagi kampeni... Kesian... Dah la muka seposen... takde duit... Ambik la kerja. Nanti... Dia lelama dia belajar la tuh..
Tak, aku tak kejam... Cuma, setiap org ada hadnya. Kalau kesian camtu. Susah. Kita tak kesian pada kampeni? Pada diri kita? Pada diri org tu? Dtg keje. tersengih2... tetiba, sebab bebal sgt... dah kengkawan kutuk... maki hamun... melemahkan semangat adala... Kita kena kesian kat org tu. But, bagi la kerja yg dia mampu buat... yg tak jatuhkan maruah dia.. tak buat org lain marah. Tak buat kita tergugat... (mana tak tergugat... asal bagi candidate je... Mesti yg kualitinya tahap2 kesian. Mana bos tak marah kita!)
So.... Dlm hidup tak boleh terlalu banyak perasaan KASIHAN... Kalau kita tak suka. kata tak suka. Kalau tak boleh ambik bekerja. Kata tak boleh. Nyatakan kenapa... Macam mana dia org boleh bantu dia org. Aku... Takkan kasihan. Kita tolong. But, better org tu tolong diri sendiri dulu b4 mengharapkan org lain kesian kat diri kita. Baik... Ada hadnya. Jahat pun... Jgn la jahat sangat. Susah!
Ermm.. ada sambung ke sebab kesian nih? Ntah... nanti aku cuba sambung lagi kalau ada topik. Ada rasanya.. byk lagi... Tapi... korang tak kesian ke kat aku? :p
- Kerja -
"Saya kesian dia. Tak pernah dpt kerja. Duit tak ada. So saya ambik la budak tu kerja."... or maybe... "Saya kesian dia... dia cantik. So dia jadi la secretary saya"... Kalau macam ni la boss nya... Huh... alamat susah la kampeni.
Betul, ada yg cantik dan yg miskin tapi pandai buat kerja. But situasi yg aku cerita ni. Kesian... sebab kita ambil kerja atas alasan selain dari kemahiran mereka bekerja. Emosi kontrol diri kita utk ambil org kerja sbb hal lain. Bukan sebab keupayaannya...
Masa aku amek HR. Ada la beberapa faktor yg menyebabkan interviewer melakukan kesilapan. Kesilapan yg boleh menyebabkan kampeni susah. Maksud aku, sebagai manusia. Kita lakukan kesilapan ini disebabkan oleh kelemahan macam emosi, bias, pro etc etc blablabla... Tapi, kalau kita ambil org kerja melalui peperiksaan or assesment je pun susah. Ada org yg baik bekerja mungkin tak pandai jawab paper. Salesman yg baik biasanya tak suka amek2 paper nih. Kemahirannya lebih pada bercakap. Tak percaya... Tanya la mamat2 or minah yg jual barang RM10 masa tgh makan. Dia org punya SPM berapa? Ada yg hancur. Tapi, bab sales... power! Ngalah yg ada master dlm marketing lak. So... bukanlah takleh nak interview takleh nak assesment. Just, jangan terlalu melibatkan perkara luaran yg boleh merugikan kampeni.
Kengkadang... Calon, ada yg cun gile. Waahh... naik juling mata interviewer... Nak mintak jawatan programmer... Tapi bila suruh terangkan. Gagap! Tapi... sebab cun ambik la... So nanti kalau yg temuduga atau bakal bos tu nanti boleh le tolong programkan awek cun ni tadi. Kononnya, bodoh sikit takpe nanti boleh belajar. Hantar gi course. Huh... bangkrap la kampeni... nak ajar, hantar course etc... dah berapa? Lepas tu... sebab bos tak reti wat program ngan baik. Dia mintak kerja tempat lain ngan alasan yg sama... satu hapah kampeni tak dapat ape. Abis duit je... Pekerja yg baik pun tak dpt.. Ceh...
Yg datang ngan muka kesian. Muka seposen... Kita kasik kerja. Dengan harapan, kita tolong dier atas dasar mereka memang mempunyai keupayaan untuk menolong diri sendiri selain meningkatkan lagi kampeni... Kesian... Dah la muka seposen... takde duit... Ambik la kerja. Nanti... Dia lelama dia belajar la tuh..
Tak, aku tak kejam... Cuma, setiap org ada hadnya. Kalau kesian camtu. Susah. Kita tak kesian pada kampeni? Pada diri kita? Pada diri org tu? Dtg keje. tersengih2... tetiba, sebab bebal sgt... dah kengkawan kutuk... maki hamun... melemahkan semangat adala... Kita kena kesian kat org tu. But, bagi la kerja yg dia mampu buat... yg tak jatuhkan maruah dia.. tak buat org lain marah. Tak buat kita tergugat... (mana tak tergugat... asal bagi candidate je... Mesti yg kualitinya tahap2 kesian. Mana bos tak marah kita!)
So.... Dlm hidup tak boleh terlalu banyak perasaan KASIHAN... Kalau kita tak suka. kata tak suka. Kalau tak boleh ambik bekerja. Kata tak boleh. Nyatakan kenapa... Macam mana dia org boleh bantu dia org. Aku... Takkan kasihan. Kita tolong. But, better org tu tolong diri sendiri dulu b4 mengharapkan org lain kesian kat diri kita. Baik... Ada hadnya. Jahat pun... Jgn la jahat sangat. Susah!
Ermm.. ada sambung ke sebab kesian nih? Ntah... nanti aku cuba sambung lagi kalau ada topik. Ada rasanya.. byk lagi... Tapi... korang tak kesian ke kat aku? :p
Monday, February 26, 2007
Kongsi2... merah!
Hari ini, hari merah di HR. Semuanya merah.
Tapi aku masih lagi purple...
Ermm... Aku tak kisah la nak pakai ape ke. Kena buat ape ke. Itu ke ini ke... Tak kisah. Janji aku makan free arinih. Lagipun... Dah lama aku tak gi hi-tea. Lelebih lagi kat tempat yg high... Menara KL...
Dulu, kononnya, aku nak ajak org lain gi hitea kat tempat rendah. Katanya, eastin hotel best. Aku tak tahu le. RAsanya tak mahal... Ermm nantilah... Tak tahu nak ajak saper lagi... Next time... Kalau dah ada calon ke... Wakakaka.. (Mir... Tolong carikkan seorang dua mir...)
Ermm-- Idea mengatakan yg dinner di menara KL adalah romantik pada aku... Tak berapa betul. Sebab, kalau jerebu, hujan... Kan tak nampak ape2?
Kalau diberi pilihan. Aku akan masak bersama (ngan awek @ bini la bukannya ngan mamak)... Bawa bekal... dan duduk di kawasan yg cantik. Tepi pantai... Or kat atas bukit yg boleh tgk bintang2 bertaburan. Bertemankan unggas dan nyamuk... Bersama lilin yg membakar diri... (perghh ayat...). Lepas tu mengatakan yg indah2. Macam lagu kenangan terindah tu!
But, serius... aku cakap... Ini yg aku nak buat... One day... Tgk la kan... But teringin la... Takde le mahal costnya... Masak2... dlm 30. Minyak kete 20. Tol 10... Huhh... Takde org kaco... Kalau dah ada lesen... Lepas makan... Korang 'makan' la bersama2! >:)
Ok... nak makan... bye!
ps - Aku nak nyanyi ptg nih. Lagu Biarlah rahsia... Siti.. Ok ke?
Tapi aku masih lagi purple...
Ermm... Aku tak kisah la nak pakai ape ke. Kena buat ape ke. Itu ke ini ke... Tak kisah. Janji aku makan free arinih. Lagipun... Dah lama aku tak gi hi-tea. Lelebih lagi kat tempat yg high... Menara KL...
Dulu, kononnya, aku nak ajak org lain gi hitea kat tempat rendah. Katanya, eastin hotel best. Aku tak tahu le. RAsanya tak mahal... Ermm nantilah... Tak tahu nak ajak saper lagi... Next time... Kalau dah ada calon ke... Wakakaka.. (Mir... Tolong carikkan seorang dua mir...)
Ermm-- Idea mengatakan yg dinner di menara KL adalah romantik pada aku... Tak berapa betul. Sebab, kalau jerebu, hujan... Kan tak nampak ape2?
Kalau diberi pilihan. Aku akan masak bersama (ngan awek @ bini la bukannya ngan mamak)... Bawa bekal... dan duduk di kawasan yg cantik. Tepi pantai... Or kat atas bukit yg boleh tgk bintang2 bertaburan. Bertemankan unggas dan nyamuk... Bersama lilin yg membakar diri... (perghh ayat...). Lepas tu mengatakan yg indah2. Macam lagu kenangan terindah tu!
But, serius... aku cakap... Ini yg aku nak buat... One day... Tgk la kan... But teringin la... Takde le mahal costnya... Masak2... dlm 30. Minyak kete 20. Tol 10... Huhh... Takde org kaco... Kalau dah ada lesen... Lepas makan... Korang 'makan' la bersama2! >:)
Ok... nak makan... bye!
ps - Aku nak nyanyi ptg nih. Lagu Biarlah rahsia... Siti.. Ok ke?
What element your love is?
Your Love Element Is Metal
In love, you inspire and respect your partner.
For you, love is all about fusing together for one incredible life experience.
You attract others with wit and a bit of flash.
Your flirting style is defined by making others want and value you.
Greatness and optimism are the cornerstones of your love life.
You may let go too easily, but you never get weighed down by your past.
You connect best with: Earth
Avoid: Fire
You and another Metal element: will control and smother each other
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Bukan Kerana Kasihan (Kesian) - 1
Part 1
Tadi, aku berborak dengan kawan aku. Pasal - Kasihan -. Tapi, yg aku borak2kan tu cuma pasal satu topik. Pasal - cinta. So nak memperluaskan lagi topik tu. Aku cerita lagi pasal - "KASIHAN" - ni dalam isu yg lebih besar. Hidup kita.
But, biar la aku cete pasal cete tadi dulu. Sebab kalau cete last, sah2 la aku dah lupe nak cete mende tu. Siri dua... tiga... akan menyusul kemudian... Hehehehe...
~Cinta~
Kengkadang, aku dengar. "Aku terima dia sebab aku kesian. Bukan sebab aku suka dia. Actually, aku suka orang lain. Tapi sebab orang lain tu buat tak tahu. So aku terimalah dia. Kesian... Dia pun dah minta banyak kali. Entahlah. Aku pun tak pasti sama ada aku akan kekal ke tak ngan yg ni".
Kesian... Kesian kat org yg dikesiani tadi. Kalau awek terima lelaki sebab kesian or sebaliknya. Apa yg akan jadi? Yup, maybe orang akan kata, lelama nanti sayang la tu. Cuma... Cam aku borak2 malam tadi. Apa kata, kalau perempuan tu jumpe lelaki lain yg lagi baik. Or, maybe yg dier bebetul suka sebelum dier kenal pakwe kesian dia nih. Apa akan jadi? Garu kepala kejap... "Apa akan jadi ek?" - Well... bak kata kawan akan... Ramai perempuan... bile dah dier suka n sayang org tu... Dia akan buat apa saja. Tak kita apa jadi. (tu yg jadi murtad, tukar agama macam lina joy tuh - tahap bodoh macam cipan)
Lelaki. Maybe lebih straightfoward... "Saya dah jumpa org lain. Yg saya suka. Itu suratan takdir (macam lagu gersang pulak!)." Malangnya, pemikiran seorang manusia bernama perempuan. Pelik. Berbelit2 kengkadang rasanya. Kengkadang, hati kata lain, mulut kata lain. Walaupun lelaki ada macam tu. Tapi, tak sekompleks perempuan... Betul la kata org dulu2. Jaga seorang perempuan ni macam jaga sekandang lembu. Susah... Masalahnya ini bukan lembu. Mereka ini perempuan. Dan ramai dari dia org tu, sangat pandai! (zaman dah terbalik)
Hahahaha... Tu baru cete situasinya. Ini soalannya kalau kita menjadi perempuan tadi...
= Kalaulah kita ini seorang perempuan. Apa yg kita rasa? Kenapa kita terima? Apa yg kita harapkan dari org tadi. Berikan komen anda...
= Situasi kedua. Tetiba... lelaki yg dier suka awal2 nya ni datang. Layan dia baik. But... Dier just layan je. Tak pulak ckp dier suka... Berikan komen anda...
= Situasi ketiga. Tetiba... Lelaki yg dier suka tu. Datang. Layan baik. Hati gembira... Berbunga. Dan kata... "Ya saya suka awak..."... Apa yg kita akan fikirkan masa tu... Apa yg akan kita buat pada lelaki yg kita suka ni dan apa pula pada pakwe yg sah di sisi undang2 percouplelan tapi kita tak berapa minat ni... Berikan komen anda...
Komen aku sendiri...
Itu je cerita aku pasal kesian. Nanti aku sambung lagi. Kalau aku ada byk masa kat umah utk taip...
Apehal pun... kalau datang bab nih... Sebolehnya... JANGANLAH IANYA BERMULA DENGAN SEBAB KASIHAN. Takut kalau ia tidak kekal atas kesilapan kita yang lama.
Tadi, aku berborak dengan kawan aku. Pasal - Kasihan -. Tapi, yg aku borak2kan tu cuma pasal satu topik. Pasal - cinta. So nak memperluaskan lagi topik tu. Aku cerita lagi pasal - "KASIHAN" - ni dalam isu yg lebih besar. Hidup kita.
But, biar la aku cete pasal cete tadi dulu. Sebab kalau cete last, sah2 la aku dah lupe nak cete mende tu. Siri dua... tiga... akan menyusul kemudian... Hehehehe...
~Cinta~
Kengkadang, aku dengar. "Aku terima dia sebab aku kesian. Bukan sebab aku suka dia. Actually, aku suka orang lain. Tapi sebab orang lain tu buat tak tahu. So aku terimalah dia. Kesian... Dia pun dah minta banyak kali. Entahlah. Aku pun tak pasti sama ada aku akan kekal ke tak ngan yg ni".
Kesian... Kesian kat org yg dikesiani tadi. Kalau awek terima lelaki sebab kesian or sebaliknya. Apa yg akan jadi? Yup, maybe orang akan kata, lelama nanti sayang la tu. Cuma... Cam aku borak2 malam tadi. Apa kata, kalau perempuan tu jumpe lelaki lain yg lagi baik. Or, maybe yg dier bebetul suka sebelum dier kenal pakwe kesian dia nih. Apa akan jadi? Garu kepala kejap... "Apa akan jadi ek?" - Well... bak kata kawan akan... Ramai perempuan... bile dah dier suka n sayang org tu... Dia akan buat apa saja. Tak kita apa jadi. (tu yg jadi murtad, tukar agama macam lina joy tuh - tahap bodoh macam cipan)
Lelaki. Maybe lebih straightfoward... "Saya dah jumpa org lain. Yg saya suka. Itu suratan takdir (macam lagu gersang pulak!)." Malangnya, pemikiran seorang manusia bernama perempuan. Pelik. Berbelit2 kengkadang rasanya. Kengkadang, hati kata lain, mulut kata lain. Walaupun lelaki ada macam tu. Tapi, tak sekompleks perempuan... Betul la kata org dulu2. Jaga seorang perempuan ni macam jaga sekandang lembu. Susah... Masalahnya ini bukan lembu. Mereka ini perempuan. Dan ramai dari dia org tu, sangat pandai! (zaman dah terbalik)
Contoh cerita...
Ok, balik pada cete aku. Aku tanya kau org. Katakan kau org seorang perempuan. Kau suka akan seorg ni... then kau tunjuk kau suka. Tapi dia wat toyer, muka seposen... Nak tunjuk lelebih, nanti org kata perigi cari timba. So kau buat yg sesuai. Lelama... kau macam dah putus harapan.... Fed-up gak... "Apa mamat ni bodoh ke ape? Terus la... kau tu bukan ada awek..."
Tetiba... Datang seorang lelaki. Ok la.. Walaupun tak macam yg kita harap dalam mimpi2 siang hari kita.. Tapi dier baik. Baik ngan kita. Tapi... hati kita masih lagi tak boleh terima org lain. Masih teragak2... "Ye ke ni? Ye ke ni. Tapi, lelaki ni masih lagi nak gak aku" (contoh la!)... "Saya memang suka awak. Memang saya nak jadikan awak sebagai... Saya harap awak terima saya...." (Aku tak pernah ckp macam nih!). So kita fikir... senyap. Then dah berapa kali dia tanya.
So malas nak fikir. Kita... "Ok lah..." Tapi kita terima lelaki tadi bukan disebabkan kita suka apa yg lelaki ni buat. But more tu kesian... Kesian dia dah minta berapa kali. Aku cuba lah. Aku harap dia boleh treat aku baik... Boleh aku lupakan org lain. Mungkin, ada gak yg terima sebab asik mintak je.. sampai datang perasaan menjengkelkan. Bosan asik tanya. Ye lah... aku terimalah...
Tapi.. dalam hati kita... tak pernah kita terfikir or terasa nak sayang org ni. Even, masa dah couple pun, sikit punya susah untuk terasa yg kita ni betul2 yakin... Masih blur (like sotong...). Dia baik. Tapi dia bukan yg terbaik. Dia mungkin org yg kita nak hidup bersama. Tapi bukan orang yg kita tak boleh hidup tanpanya... (perghhh jiwang siot ayat aku!)
So kita tanya diri kita. Aku kesian ke kat dier? Or memang sebab aku suka?
Hahahaha... Tu baru cete situasinya. Ini soalannya kalau kita menjadi perempuan tadi...
= Kalaulah kita ini seorang perempuan. Apa yg kita rasa? Kenapa kita terima? Apa yg kita harapkan dari org tadi. Berikan komen anda...
= Situasi kedua. Tetiba... lelaki yg dier suka awal2 nya ni datang. Layan dia baik. But... Dier just layan je. Tak pulak ckp dier suka... Berikan komen anda...
= Situasi ketiga. Tetiba... Lelaki yg dier suka tu. Datang. Layan baik. Hati gembira... Berbunga. Dan kata... "Ya saya suka awak..."... Apa yg kita akan fikirkan masa tu... Apa yg akan kita buat pada lelaki yg kita suka ni dan apa pula pada pakwe yg sah di sisi undang2 percouplelan tapi kita tak berapa minat ni... Berikan komen anda...
Komen aku sendiri...
=S1 - Aku... tak kira sama ada aku jadi perempuan di atas atau pun aku yg masih lelaki ni. Aku takkan terima org sebab aku kasihan. Alasan KASIHAN tu tak boleh pakai sama sekali. Sebab, aku takut situasi kat atas terjadi.
Dan aku sebolehnya, tanak tahu yg org lain terima aku sebab kesian. Sebab aku tahu, kemungkinan akan berlaku..... situasi awek kita ni pergi kat org yg dier suka tu besar. RASAnya, aku pernah mengalaminya. Sekali.. Just sekali. Mungkin keputusannya terlalu cepat. So... relationship aku tu sgt cepat jugalah... 2 bulan. But, alhamdullillah... aku tahu. Aku patut terima kasih. Sebab dia cepat bagitahu. Dan aku pun taklah sakit. Kalaulah ia semakin lama... wow... sakit... Gile... So... kalau aku takleh terima org sebab aku takut aku kesian, org tu patut ucap terima kasih. Sebab aku cuba utk tak sakitkan hati dier pada waktu akan datang...
= S2 - Aku akan make sure sama ada org tu bebetul suka or just kawan je. Takut nanti, yg di ada melepas. Yg dikejar tak dapat... Byk cara boleh cari jawapan tadi. Salah satu... tanya... Alah... ape salahnya tanya. Kita bukan hidup zaman tok kaduk naik junjung...
= S3 - Depend on kenapa aku suka dia dulu... Sebab fikizal? Hensem nak mampos... or sebab dia ni memang ada kecharmingan yg tak berbelah bagi. Yalah... Dah la baik, hensem sikit2, pandai layan, hormat org etc... Kalau sebab fizikal... Kena fikir panjang kot? Sebab, kot pakwe aku tu ada sikit spoiler... tapi yg kita suka ni pun kita tak kenal camne perangainya, susah gak. Pakwe kita dah kenal sesikit. Kang, tinggal pakwe, tapi yg kita suka ni pulak tak dpt treat bebaik.... So better kenal bebetul sebelum ambik keputusan tu.
Tapi kalau sebab... Memang dah org yg kita suka tu baik... Sebab itulah kita terpikat. Dan semasa dia nak tekel kita pun dia memang macam tu. Aku rasa... aku prefer org yg aku suka. Pakwe kita mungkin sakit. But, tak sesakit kalau kita biarkan lebih lama. Tak sakit sgt kot?
Lagipun, bila lagi kita nak treat diri kita yg terbaik? Utk masa depan kita gak... Sampai kita mati... Org kata, org tak setuju... memang ada. But, org tu bukan tido sekatil ngan kita sampai kita mati. Right?
Itu je cerita aku pasal kesian. Nanti aku sambung lagi. Kalau aku ada byk masa kat umah utk taip...
Apehal pun... kalau datang bab nih... Sebolehnya... JANGANLAH IANYA BERMULA DENGAN SEBAB KASIHAN. Takut kalau ia tidak kekal atas kesilapan kita yang lama.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Mari Mengenal Johor..to those who are not Johorean
10 Things You Should Know About A True Blue Johorean
1. They end 9 out of 10 sentences with Ekkk...
Ekk ialah trademark orang Johor. Digunakan di hujung SETIAP ayat menggantikan tanda soal (question mark).
Contoh :-
Ni awak punyer ekk?
Nama awak saper ekk ?
Kenapa kite kaler tak cantik ekk ?
Dan macam-macam ekk lagi.
Aku teringat semasa aku sekolah dulu, aku dan member sebelah aku boring yang amat di dalam kelas, so to keep us awake, kami dok mengira berapa kali Cikgu sebut ekk. In a period of 40 minutes, dekat 100 kali! Lepas tu kami gelarkan Cikgu tu as Cikgu Fadzillah* Ekk. (*bukan nama sebenar).
2. They refer to Johor Bahru as Johor and not JB.
Kalau orang di negeri Johor sebut Johor, it meant Johor Bahru (JB), the city dan bukan Johor, the state. Biasa digunakan oleh mereka yang tinggal di luar bandar Johor Baru seperti di Masai- chusettes umpamanya.
Contoh : Beb, gua nak turun Johor laa. Lu mahu ikut gua tak?
So, if you ARE already in Johor, tak kira di daerah mana - if the locals kata nak pergi Johor, it means nak ke Johor Bahru. Jangan pulak buat lawak bongok** berkata, " Eh, lu kan dah ada kat Johor?" Or worse, jangan memandai nak tambah ekk with that question.
3. They pronounce Muar as MUOR. ( kena juih bibir sikit)
In fact you pronounce everything that ends with "AR" as "OR".
Contoh : Aku kena pakai seluor besor untuk main bolor kat Muor besok. (Aku kena pakai seluar besar nak main bola di Muar besok).
Aku teringat Kakak tegur aku bila aku cakap macam tu. Kenapa Mama sebut besar, BESOR ? Slipper , SLIPPOR ? Aku tergelak. Aku cuma speak like that bila berjumpa dengan true blue Johorean aje.
Lapo (lapar), penampor (penampar), ulor (ular), pagor (pagar) dan lain-lain.
4. They are brash with a CRAZY sense of humour.
Honestly, I belum pernah jumpa orang Johor yang serious or square to a T. Or cannot take a joke. Walaupun pendiam atau pemalu , but their sense of humour boleh tahan gak. Almost all of them (yang aku jumpa dan kenal lah) are either loyar buruk or bigor **.
Baik di kampung mahu di Bandar. The sense of humour is unique that I find kadang-kadang orang luar (non-Johorean) agak takut with the brashness of budak-budak Johor.
(Did you see Majalah 3 the other night - see how Tunku Yem (nama manja Tunku Mahkota Johor) bercerita pasal anakanda dia Tunku Ismail ? Haha.... that is exactly my point!)
5. Diorang ada ENDUT **.
Kalau tak pernah berendut, sure pernah ada endut or busuk-busuk pun teringin nak ada endut.
Contoh ayat :
Haa...kau dah ada endut yer ?
Kau pergi berendut kat mana ?
Orang berendut dia pun nak berendut.
6. Diorang Makan Gula Tarik, Sagun, Gula Kandy, Bobotok....
Dah lama aku tak tengok atau makan gula tarik, sagun or kandy. Ada lagi ke bebenda ni kat Johor ? Aku tak boleh nak describe dengan teliti these things cos it has been 30 years since I last tasted them.
Seperti Kak P cakap - makanan seperti botok-botok. Kalau out of Johor, botok-botok dikenali dengan nama PAIS IKAN . Jangan tanya aku how to describe the ingredients cos aku tak berapa gemar makan sebab guna banyak sangat daun ( aku tak suka makan sayur - especially ulam). Yang aku tahu - pakai daun segala daun, termasuk daun betik dan gunakan kari ikan and balut dengan daun-daun tu dan kukus.
Aku pernah tanya my Dad dulu - kenapa buruk benor nama dia bebotok. Then my Dad cerita :
Di zaman dulu ada seorang nenek yang tinggal seorang diri. Everyday cucu dia akan datang bawak makanan. Nenek ini suka sangat pais ikan dengan bubur so dia suruh cucu ni bawak tetiap hari. Bila cucu tu bawak makanan lain, Nenek akan tanya " Mana Bubur Tok? ". Lama-lama Bubur Tok jadilah Bebotok - kesan dari cakap cepat-cepat .
Itulah ceritanya. Aku kecik lagi masa my Dad cerita tu. So, kalau dia kelentong aku - maka kelentonglah cerita bebotok tu. Sekian adanya.
7. Pernah (or berangan nak) jadi Mat Rock .
Aku rasa sebab kedudukan Johor dekat dengan Singapore, sebab itulah pengaruh Barat di Malaysia masuk melalui Johor dulu. Itu teori aku lah. But kalau ikutkan sejarah Johor, Sultan yang mula-mula kawin dengan Mat Salleh pun Sultan Johor (Almarhum). So, tak heranlah kalau kumpulan Rock kat Malaysia ini semua ada susur galur dari Johor. Amy, Zainal Abidin, Nash etc.
Boleh pakai ke teori aku ni? Jangan aku kena pancung dengan Sultan, dah ler.
Ampun Tuanku !
8. Kenduri Kawin Ada Telur Pindang
Telur pindang ialah telur ayam yang direbus dengan segala macam rempah dan dedaun untuk mendapatkan that special taste. Lepas rebus, telur akan berwarna cokelat. Both kulit dan isi. I don't like to eat telur pindang, so I cannot to describe the taste. Normally orang buat telur pindang ni for special occasion, seperti majlis perkahwinan. Zaman dulu-dulu, you can tell the social class of the tuan rumah - normally orang kaya-kaya jer buat telur pindang ni sebab ianya rumit dan makan masa berjam-jam therefore menggunakan kos yang tinggi.
9. Tidur atas LECA** (rhyme with letak and baca, the non-baku way). Baju simpan dalam GEROBOK **.
10. They never watch RTM sebab semua cerita dah tengok kat TV Singapore!
When I was growing up, aku cukup suka tengok TV Singapore sebab iklan dia semua dari overseas, very menarik. Besides the cerita yang terkinilah. Yang aku suka ialah iklan jeans Levi's ( Let your love flow ), iklan lagu Coke ( I'd like to build the world a home ), iklan Kodak ( Times of Your Life -Paul Anka ). Paling syok ialah masa Christmas, iklan dan lagu semua best-best.
(But itu dulu, sekarang aku rasa semua rancangan sudah semasa.)
Well, TV Singapore cuma dapat ditengok oleh penduduk JB dan kawasan yang sewaktu dengannya. As you go further up north (of Johor), you can see aerial TV semua setinggi pokok kelapa - semata-mata nak dapatkan siaran from Singapore!
Apa lagi EKK?
Kamus Johor :
Bongok - bodoh
Bigor - gila-gila, contoh :- Apek Senario tu macam budak BIGOR ekk ?
Endut - makwe/pakwe. Awek/balak. Boifren/girlfren. Boleh digunakan tanpa mengira jantina.
Berendut - berpasangan.
Pergi berendut - dating.
Botok-botok, bebotok - sejenis makanan menggunakan ikan, ditambah memacam dedaun, letak serbuk kari (don't ask me - aku tak reti buat) dan dibalut dengan daun betik, diikat dengan sebelum dikukus. Alah, macam Pais Ikan tuh.
Leca - tilam. Normally dibuat sendiri menggunakan kekabu (orang zaman dulu-dulu semua DIY - tak ada Vono, Slumberland ).
Gerobok, Gobok - cupboard. Almari. Tak kiralah simpan kain baju ke, simpan pinggan mangkok ke.
Disclaimer: This entry is written based on the writer's experience living in Johor in the 70s. What is written cannot be used against the writer or compared with what transpired in the years thereafter - 80s, 90s and the new millennium.
1. They end 9 out of 10 sentences with Ekkk...
Ekk ialah trademark orang Johor. Digunakan di hujung SETIAP ayat menggantikan tanda soal (question mark).
Contoh :-
Ni awak punyer ekk?
Nama awak saper ekk ?
Kenapa kite kaler tak cantik ekk ?
Dan macam-macam ekk lagi.
Aku teringat semasa aku sekolah dulu, aku dan member sebelah aku boring yang amat di dalam kelas, so to keep us awake, kami dok mengira berapa kali Cikgu sebut ekk. In a period of 40 minutes, dekat 100 kali! Lepas tu kami gelarkan Cikgu tu as Cikgu Fadzillah* Ekk. (*bukan nama sebenar).
2. They refer to Johor Bahru as Johor and not JB.
Kalau orang di negeri Johor sebut Johor, it meant Johor Bahru (JB), the city dan bukan Johor, the state. Biasa digunakan oleh mereka yang tinggal di luar bandar Johor Baru seperti di Masai- chusettes umpamanya.
Contoh : Beb, gua nak turun Johor laa. Lu mahu ikut gua tak?
So, if you ARE already in Johor, tak kira di daerah mana - if the locals kata nak pergi Johor, it means nak ke Johor Bahru. Jangan pulak buat lawak bongok** berkata, " Eh, lu kan dah ada kat Johor?" Or worse, jangan memandai nak tambah ekk with that question.
3. They pronounce Muar as MUOR. ( kena juih bibir sikit)
In fact you pronounce everything that ends with "AR" as "OR".
Contoh : Aku kena pakai seluor besor untuk main bolor kat Muor besok. (Aku kena pakai seluar besar nak main bola di Muar besok).
Aku teringat Kakak tegur aku bila aku cakap macam tu. Kenapa Mama sebut besar, BESOR ? Slipper , SLIPPOR ? Aku tergelak. Aku cuma speak like that bila berjumpa dengan true blue Johorean aje.
Lapo (lapar), penampor (penampar), ulor (ular), pagor (pagar) dan lain-lain.
4. They are brash with a CRAZY sense of humour.
Honestly, I belum pernah jumpa orang Johor yang serious or square to a T. Or cannot take a joke. Walaupun pendiam atau pemalu , but their sense of humour boleh tahan gak. Almost all of them (yang aku jumpa dan kenal lah) are either loyar buruk or bigor **.
Baik di kampung mahu di Bandar. The sense of humour is unique that I find kadang-kadang orang luar (non-Johorean) agak takut with the brashness of budak-budak Johor.
(Did you see Majalah 3 the other night - see how Tunku Yem (nama manja Tunku Mahkota Johor) bercerita pasal anakanda dia Tunku Ismail ? Haha.... that is exactly my point!)
5. Diorang ada ENDUT **.
Kalau tak pernah berendut, sure pernah ada endut or busuk-busuk pun teringin nak ada endut.
Contoh ayat :
Haa...kau dah ada endut yer ?
Kau pergi berendut kat mana ?
Orang berendut dia pun nak berendut.
6. Diorang Makan Gula Tarik, Sagun, Gula Kandy, Bobotok....
Dah lama aku tak tengok atau makan gula tarik, sagun or kandy. Ada lagi ke bebenda ni kat Johor ? Aku tak boleh nak describe dengan teliti these things cos it has been 30 years since I last tasted them.
Seperti Kak P cakap - makanan seperti botok-botok. Kalau out of Johor, botok-botok dikenali dengan nama PAIS IKAN . Jangan tanya aku how to describe the ingredients cos aku tak berapa gemar makan sebab guna banyak sangat daun ( aku tak suka makan sayur - especially ulam). Yang aku tahu - pakai daun segala daun, termasuk daun betik dan gunakan kari ikan and balut dengan daun-daun tu dan kukus.
Aku pernah tanya my Dad dulu - kenapa buruk benor nama dia bebotok. Then my Dad cerita :
Di zaman dulu ada seorang nenek yang tinggal seorang diri. Everyday cucu dia akan datang bawak makanan. Nenek ini suka sangat pais ikan dengan bubur so dia suruh cucu ni bawak tetiap hari. Bila cucu tu bawak makanan lain, Nenek akan tanya " Mana Bubur Tok? ". Lama-lama Bubur Tok jadilah Bebotok - kesan dari cakap cepat-cepat .
Itulah ceritanya. Aku kecik lagi masa my Dad cerita tu. So, kalau dia kelentong aku - maka kelentonglah cerita bebotok tu. Sekian adanya.
7. Pernah (or berangan nak) jadi Mat Rock .
Aku rasa sebab kedudukan Johor dekat dengan Singapore, sebab itulah pengaruh Barat di Malaysia masuk melalui Johor dulu. Itu teori aku lah. But kalau ikutkan sejarah Johor, Sultan yang mula-mula kawin dengan Mat Salleh pun Sultan Johor (Almarhum). So, tak heranlah kalau kumpulan Rock kat Malaysia ini semua ada susur galur dari Johor. Amy, Zainal Abidin, Nash etc.
Boleh pakai ke teori aku ni? Jangan aku kena pancung dengan Sultan, dah ler.
Ampun Tuanku !
8. Kenduri Kawin Ada Telur Pindang
Telur pindang ialah telur ayam yang direbus dengan segala macam rempah dan dedaun untuk mendapatkan that special taste. Lepas rebus, telur akan berwarna cokelat. Both kulit dan isi. I don't like to eat telur pindang, so I cannot to describe the taste. Normally orang buat telur pindang ni for special occasion, seperti majlis perkahwinan. Zaman dulu-dulu, you can tell the social class of the tuan rumah - normally orang kaya-kaya jer buat telur pindang ni sebab ianya rumit dan makan masa berjam-jam therefore menggunakan kos yang tinggi.
9. Tidur atas LECA** (rhyme with letak and baca, the non-baku way). Baju simpan dalam GEROBOK **.
10. They never watch RTM sebab semua cerita dah tengok kat TV Singapore!
When I was growing up, aku cukup suka tengok TV Singapore sebab iklan dia semua dari overseas, very menarik. Besides the cerita yang terkinilah. Yang aku suka ialah iklan jeans Levi's ( Let your love flow ), iklan lagu Coke ( I'd like to build the world a home ), iklan Kodak ( Times of Your Life -Paul Anka ). Paling syok ialah masa Christmas, iklan dan lagu semua best-best.
(But itu dulu, sekarang aku rasa semua rancangan sudah semasa.)
Well, TV Singapore cuma dapat ditengok oleh penduduk JB dan kawasan yang sewaktu dengannya. As you go further up north (of Johor), you can see aerial TV semua setinggi pokok kelapa - semata-mata nak dapatkan siaran from Singapore!
Apa lagi EKK?
Kamus Johor :
Bongok - bodoh
Bigor - gila-gila, contoh :- Apek Senario tu macam budak BIGOR ekk ?
Endut - makwe/pakwe. Awek/balak. Boifren/girlfren. Boleh digunakan tanpa mengira jantina.
Berendut - berpasangan.
Pergi berendut - dating.
Botok-botok, bebotok - sejenis makanan menggunakan ikan, ditambah memacam dedaun, letak serbuk kari (don't ask me - aku tak reti buat) dan dibalut dengan daun betik, diikat dengan sebelum dikukus. Alah, macam Pais Ikan tuh.
Leca - tilam. Normally dibuat sendiri menggunakan kekabu (orang zaman dulu-dulu semua DIY - tak ada Vono, Slumberland ).
Gerobok, Gobok - cupboard. Almari. Tak kiralah simpan kain baju ke, simpan pinggan mangkok ke.
Disclaimer: This entry is written based on the writer's experience living in Johor in the 70s. What is written cannot be used against the writer or compared with what transpired in the years thereafter - 80s, 90s and the new millennium.
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
This is for you
*Got this from my friend.
A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty,
He said...no.
She asked him if he would want to be with her forever...
and he said no.
She then asked him if she were to leave would he cry,
and once again he replied with a no.
She had heard enough. As she walked away, tears streaming down her face the boy grabbed her arm and said...
You're not pretty you're beautiful.
I don't want to be with you forever, I NEED to be with you forever.
And I wouldn't cry if you walked away...I'd die...
SO NOW I WILL SAY:
I like you because of who you are to me.. A true friend. And if I don't get this back I'll take the hint.
Tonight at midnight your true love will realize they like you.
Remember:
"A good friend will come bail you out of jail....
But a true friend will be sitting next to you saying
WE screwed up, but we had fun! "
Proud to be your Friend!
Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence, and don't skip ahead.
I've learned...that life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've learned...that we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.
I've learned...that money doesn't buy class.
I've learned..that it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've learned...that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. !
I've learned...that the Lord didn't do it all in one day.
What makes me think I can?
I've learned...that to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've learned.
I've learned...that the less time I have to work, the more things I get done.
To all of you...make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence.
It's National Friendship Week.
Show your friends how much you care.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. !
If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
HAPPY FRIENDSHIP WEEK TO YOU!!!!!!
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I am honored!!!
A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty,
He said...no.
She asked him if he would want to be with her forever...
and he said no.
She then asked him if she were to leave would he cry,
and once again he replied with a no.
She had heard enough. As she walked away, tears streaming down her face the boy grabbed her arm and said...
You're not pretty you're beautiful.
I don't want to be with you forever, I NEED to be with you forever.
And I wouldn't cry if you walked away...I'd die...
SO NOW I WILL SAY:
I like you because of who you are to me.. A true friend. And if I don't get this back I'll take the hint.
Tonight at midnight your true love will realize they like you.
Remember:
"A good friend will come bail you out of jail....
But a true friend will be sitting next to you saying
WE screwed up, but we had fun! "
Proud to be your Friend!
Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence, and don't skip ahead.
I've learned...that life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've learned...that we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.
I've learned...that money doesn't buy class.
I've learned..that it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've learned...that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. !
I've learned...that the Lord didn't do it all in one day.
What makes me think I can?
I've learned...that to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've learned.
I've learned...that the less time I have to work, the more things I get done.
To all of you...make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence.
It's National Friendship Week.
Show your friends how much you care.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending it back to the person who sent it to you. !
If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.
HAPPY FRIENDSHIP WEEK TO YOU!!!!!!
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I am honored!!!
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Ingat tak ingat...
Hahahaha... versi lepas sambutan valentino rossi...
Sinonim ngan diri aku. Jarang ada yg di tengah. Kalau romantik. Gile... Kalau tak romantik pun... gile gak.. Gile ahh... Tu baru mende tu. Lain.. sama gak. Time cool... wooo... org maki hamun aku boleh sengih2... Time tak betul... org jentik telinga pun boleh kena maki balik. Tapi... tak selalu la... Time period je aku jadik macam tu.
But yg ni cerita yg lain. Cete bab ingat mengingati...
Once aku cakap aku lupa. Memang aku lupa. Takde yg lain selain aku kata aku lupa. Sama ada aku baru je lepas cakap 2-3 saat yg lepas atau dah lama aku cakap. MEmang aku lupa. Tak tipu. Ntah sindrom apa aku kena. Sindrom mudah lupa kot?
Tu yg jadi... "Saya ada nak cakap something... Tapi lupalah... Serius tak ingat..." Hahahaha... Kengkadang... "Ehh jom kita gi..... alamak... tadi dah fikir... tapi lupalah...". Kronik2...
Tapi
Tapi kalau aku ckp aku ingat. Maknenya aku ingatlah tu. Dan kalau aku berdegil utk buat apa yg aku ingat. Aku akan buat. Aku akan cuba buat. Tak kira sama ada mende tu aku cakap atau org lain cakap. Aku ingat.
Masih lagi aku ingat apa yg arwah atok aku ckp. Masa tu dia tengah mengetuk dinding rumah. Aku pulak main2 dengan ing. Aku kacau2 ing (masa tu umur 4-5 tahun kot?). Ntah macam mana tetiba adik aku ing ni nangis. Sebab aku kacau. Ing masa tu baru 2-3 tahun.
Atok jerit dari atas tangga... "Bocah iki aku tabok karang..." (Translate... - Budak ni aku tampar nanti...". Aku punya kecut. Tak pernah lak aku terfikir atok marah aku camtu. So... takut punya pasal. Aku masuk bilik. Dok bawah katil kejap. Then tido. Merajuk. Tanak bukak pintu. Sampai atok pujuk... Hehehe... Gi menge'teh... Beli gula getah bulat2... Tapi... apa yg arwah atok sebut, aku akan ingat sampai akhir hayat aku....
Sama dengan nasihat arwah atok ni kat aku... "Kalau aku bagi duit raya dekat budak2 ni. Budak2 ni ingat la aku sampai dibelanja duit aku tu. Tapi kalau aku bagi mercun. Budak ni ingat sampai tua"... Betul. Walaupun kisah lama. Aku akan ingat sampai tua. He was the only one yg belikan aku mercun sampai la aku dah kerja ni. Arwah atok aku.
Nasihat yg mudah. Sometimes. Kita beri seseorang something yg nampak tak berguna. Org lain kata... Ape la kau nih. Takde mende lain ke? But... Yg org lain kata tak ok tu sebenarnya yg akan mengingatkan org yg terima tu. Duit takkan lebih berharga dari gelak ketawa dan kenangan yg diberikan pada kita, kan? And seeing someone happy becoz apa yg kita buat mereka... Sangat2... bermakna... sangat2... mengujakan... Even, kalau buat kawan kita ketawa dan gembira pun dah lebih cukup dari itu...
Ceritanya...
Well... certain thing kita kena ingat. Sebagai panduan. Sebagai ingatan. TApi ada perkara lain kenalah kita lupakan. Kalau dah perkara yg tak seronok, kenapa kita nak ingat, kan? Makin kita ingat, makin susah kita nak move on dengan hidup kita. Dewasa ini (cheewahh... macam forum pulak), asal cakap macam ni, mesti pasal cinta... Hummm... Alah... kumbang bukan seekor... bunga bukan sekuntum. Right?
TAk kisah la pasal kisah cinta ke, cinton ke mee cintan ke. Dah tak bess... tinggal je tepi. Say... 'bye bye darling...'. Hidup mesti terus... KAlau boleh sebagai kawan. Baguslah. Tapi, kalau menyekat diri kita dari move on. What for? People make mistakes. But still god forgive us. Who are they kalau tanak maafkan kesilapan org lain yg lepas?
Setiap perkara yg berlaku ada hikmahnya. Kalau kita pandai cari la... Kalau tak tahu nak cari kebaikkan dalam sesuatu perkara... Then... misery love company lah... So lupakan yg sakit tu. Kita ingat yg manis. One of them... ingat kawan kita yg selalu buat kita happy. Org yg bebetul sayang kita adalah org yg sentiasa mahukan diri kita happy dan berjaya. Trust me... walaupun dia tak pernah kata... 'I love you...'. Love is more than words, right?
Ok le cukup sampai sini dulu... Kita berjumpa minggu depan.
Happy holiday all... And cuti2 nih... Gi date bebanyak... Oh ya... Selamat tahun babi to all of you... peace! :)
Ps - Nasihat. Kalau kita tak mampu buat diri kita happy... Buat org lain happy... Insya-allah... One day... kita akan lebih happy dari tu. Percayalah... (remember... give and take concept?)
Sinonim ngan diri aku. Jarang ada yg di tengah. Kalau romantik. Gile... Kalau tak romantik pun... gile gak.. Gile ahh... Tu baru mende tu. Lain.. sama gak. Time cool... wooo... org maki hamun aku boleh sengih2... Time tak betul... org jentik telinga pun boleh kena maki balik. Tapi... tak selalu la... Time period je aku jadik macam tu.
But yg ni cerita yg lain. Cete bab ingat mengingati...
Once aku cakap aku lupa. Memang aku lupa. Takde yg lain selain aku kata aku lupa. Sama ada aku baru je lepas cakap 2-3 saat yg lepas atau dah lama aku cakap. MEmang aku lupa. Tak tipu. Ntah sindrom apa aku kena. Sindrom mudah lupa kot?
Tu yg jadi... "Saya ada nak cakap something... Tapi lupalah... Serius tak ingat..." Hahahaha... Kengkadang... "Ehh jom kita gi..... alamak... tadi dah fikir... tapi lupalah...". Kronik2...
Tapi
Tapi kalau aku ckp aku ingat. Maknenya aku ingatlah tu. Dan kalau aku berdegil utk buat apa yg aku ingat. Aku akan buat. Aku akan cuba buat. Tak kira sama ada mende tu aku cakap atau org lain cakap. Aku ingat.
Masih lagi aku ingat apa yg arwah atok aku ckp. Masa tu dia tengah mengetuk dinding rumah. Aku pulak main2 dengan ing. Aku kacau2 ing (masa tu umur 4-5 tahun kot?). Ntah macam mana tetiba adik aku ing ni nangis. Sebab aku kacau. Ing masa tu baru 2-3 tahun.
Atok jerit dari atas tangga... "Bocah iki aku tabok karang..." (Translate... - Budak ni aku tampar nanti...". Aku punya kecut. Tak pernah lak aku terfikir atok marah aku camtu. So... takut punya pasal. Aku masuk bilik. Dok bawah katil kejap. Then tido. Merajuk. Tanak bukak pintu. Sampai atok pujuk... Hehehe... Gi menge'teh... Beli gula getah bulat2... Tapi... apa yg arwah atok sebut, aku akan ingat sampai akhir hayat aku....
Sama dengan nasihat arwah atok ni kat aku... "Kalau aku bagi duit raya dekat budak2 ni. Budak2 ni ingat la aku sampai dibelanja duit aku tu. Tapi kalau aku bagi mercun. Budak ni ingat sampai tua"... Betul. Walaupun kisah lama. Aku akan ingat sampai tua. He was the only one yg belikan aku mercun sampai la aku dah kerja ni. Arwah atok aku.
Nasihat yg mudah. Sometimes. Kita beri seseorang something yg nampak tak berguna. Org lain kata... Ape la kau nih. Takde mende lain ke? But... Yg org lain kata tak ok tu sebenarnya yg akan mengingatkan org yg terima tu. Duit takkan lebih berharga dari gelak ketawa dan kenangan yg diberikan pada kita, kan? And seeing someone happy becoz apa yg kita buat mereka... Sangat2... bermakna... sangat2... mengujakan... Even, kalau buat kawan kita ketawa dan gembira pun dah lebih cukup dari itu...
Ceritanya...
Well... certain thing kita kena ingat. Sebagai panduan. Sebagai ingatan. TApi ada perkara lain kenalah kita lupakan. Kalau dah perkara yg tak seronok, kenapa kita nak ingat, kan? Makin kita ingat, makin susah kita nak move on dengan hidup kita. Dewasa ini (cheewahh... macam forum pulak), asal cakap macam ni, mesti pasal cinta... Hummm... Alah... kumbang bukan seekor... bunga bukan sekuntum. Right?
TAk kisah la pasal kisah cinta ke, cinton ke mee cintan ke. Dah tak bess... tinggal je tepi. Say... 'bye bye darling...'. Hidup mesti terus... KAlau boleh sebagai kawan. Baguslah. Tapi, kalau menyekat diri kita dari move on. What for? People make mistakes. But still god forgive us. Who are they kalau tanak maafkan kesilapan org lain yg lepas?
Setiap perkara yg berlaku ada hikmahnya. Kalau kita pandai cari la... Kalau tak tahu nak cari kebaikkan dalam sesuatu perkara... Then... misery love company lah... So lupakan yg sakit tu. Kita ingat yg manis. One of them... ingat kawan kita yg selalu buat kita happy. Org yg bebetul sayang kita adalah org yg sentiasa mahukan diri kita happy dan berjaya. Trust me... walaupun dia tak pernah kata... 'I love you...'. Love is more than words, right?
Ok le cukup sampai sini dulu... Kita berjumpa minggu depan.
Happy holiday all... And cuti2 nih... Gi date bebanyak... Oh ya... Selamat tahun babi to all of you... peace! :)
Ps - Nasihat. Kalau kita tak mampu buat diri kita happy... Buat org lain happy... Insya-allah... One day... kita akan lebih happy dari tu. Percayalah... (remember... give and take concept?)
I'll be
Rasa nak nyanyi pulak hari ni... So...
I'll Be - Edwin McCain
The strands in your eyes that color them wonderful
Stop me and steal my breath.
And emeralds from mountains thrust toward the sky
Never revealing their depth.
Tell me that we belong together,
Dress it up with the trappings of love.
I'll be captivated,
I'll hang from your lips,
Instead of the gallows of heartache that hang from above.
[Chorus:]
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your life.
And rain falls angry on the tin roof
As we lie awake in my bed.
You're my survival, you're my living proof.
My love is alive -- not dead.
Tell me that we belong together.
Dress it up with the trappings of love.
I'll be captivated,
I'll hang from your lips,
Instead of the gallows of heartache that hang from above
[Chorus]
And I've dropped out, I've burned up, I've fought my way back from the dead.
I've tuned in, turned on, remembered the things that you said
[Chorus:]
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your...
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your life.
The greatest fan of your life.
...greatest fan of your life.
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Valentine?
Near everything about Valentine. Though i don't celebrate it!. Coz for me, you can love your love one each and every seconds right? so why we need valentine?
Nothing seems to ruffle you more than a lack of discipline, disloyalty and decorum. But Arians are also known to go into a rage very easily when challenged. Those of you who have been on the receiving end of the Aries temper know that if not calmed down they can even get violent. But one thing is certain if the opponent remains calm and does not react to their outburst, Arians cool down very fast. They are also the first to apologize, which makes them easier to forgive.
TAURUS APRIL 21 – MAY 20
You are generally quiet and have control over your emotions. It is difficult to predict what will upset you, so when you do lose your cool, people don’t know how to react. Your temper is like that of a raging bull, and anyone trying to pacify you will be the first one to get a verbal bashing. You generally get upset when you are concerned or when people accuse you of doing something wrong. You also hate being reminded about mistakes you’ve made in the past. You also have the potential to be terribly vindictive if rubbed the wrong way.
GEMINI MAY 21 – June 29
You are recognized by your cheerful disposition and your jovial nature is easily susceptible to anger. In fact, you are the best person to have around when there is an ugly scene at a party you can bring the warring factions together quite diplomatically. But when you lose cool, you yell and scream and will not listen to reason. You must have the last word in a wordy duel. Your capacity to argue aggressively is matched only by your seductive charm.
CANCER JUNE 21 – JULY 21
Considering how charming, caring and kind you are, you dislike unpleasant scenes, much less creating one yourself. You have great tolerance and rarely get provoked into losing your temper. If someone is unreasonable or trying to create trouble, you are more likely to walk away quietly. But that does not mean you do not have a temper. When angry, in your effort to control your emotions, you tremble, your hands get sweaty and sometimes you fumble for words. Tears roll down your eyes easily and the opponent is touched by your innocence and will seek an apology immediately.
LEO JULY 22 – AUGUST 21
If anyone has total control over their emotions, it is you. But then, you can be described as stiff, cold and uncaring. You are known to lack spontaneity but you really don’t care about opinions. You don’t like to create scenes and will never accept invitations to a party where you suspect the presence of an unruly lot. But your very presence seems challenging to some and they take vicarious pleasure in your disquiet. When angry you can use critical language. A dressing down can humiliate your opponent, causing a strain between both of you forever.
VIRGO AUGUST 22 – SEPTEMBER 21
Most of you are gentle and have full control over your emotions but those of you given to temper tantrums can certainly get violent. When see things with rage, you yell and shout and tend to break things lying close at hand. You can even harm yourself by banging your hands on a glass top table or wall. You should never get into any argument, for you are a sore loser. You feel that others are trying to persecute you and don’t quite respect your opinions. When hurt, you can also hold grudges forever.
LIBRA SEPTEMBER 22 – OCTOBER 22
Did someone say that you are the charmers of the zodiac? Well, it’s true. Few have ever seen you ruffled or angry. You are very conscious of your image, and you believe that anger distorts your face and personality. You also think you are above things like anger. But wait before you get into self-congratulatory mood. Your family or those very close to you know you better. You have an unmatched temper amongst all the zodiac signs, and what makes it worse is your capacity to justify it.
SCORPIO OCTOBER 23 – NOVEMBER 21
Of course you don’t lose your cool. But your very demeanor (manner) projects haughtiness (arrogance, pride), pride and grand disdain (disregard) for lesser mortals (human). Others are often found saying that anger sits on your nose and you are raring to give your piece mind to the first person who try to be funny with you. You are selective in the choice of your friends, and have a low tolerance for the superfluous (extra) types. Your tongue-lashing (attack) is generally in a soft hissing tone for when you scream, your voice tends to get shrill and loud and you do hate drawing attention to yourself! When upset, you are angrier with yourself for having shown weakness, for the last thing that Scorpio wants to show is being out of control.
SAGITTARIUS NOVEMBER 22 – DECEMBER 20
You are insensible and generally have no complete control over your emotions. You do get angry quickly and others marvel at your anger levels even when provoked. Actually, you get tongue-tied when angry and you will remove your anger waiting for the other person to calm down. Then you will reason with your opponent and convince the other person in a very gentle manner that the whole thing was just his mistake. You’re also likely to totally sever ties with someone when you’re upset with them.
CAPRICORN DECEMBER 21 – JANUARY 19
Few will believe that a hardcore practical and materialistic person like you is capable of sensitivity and genuine emotions. You project a hard exterior but are actually very sensitive, a trait you successfully hide from others. You can see thing with anger but will not betray your feelings. But then, there are times that even you cannot control your temper. Under such circumstances you can shout and scream, more with frustration at the situation than with anger at any particular person. Your outbursts can shock others and can make them feel guilty too.
AQUARIUS JANUARY 20 – FEBRUARY 18
You are noble and kind and dislike losing control over your emotions. It is very rare for you to get angry. You are also the pacifier in situations that involve arguments. It is always your endeavor to be perfect and socially correct in your behavior and attitude, but if misunderstood and slighted you can give in to an angry outburst. You will shout and scream and then walk out from the scene. You cannot easily forget the situation and will be bitter about it for a long time.
PISCES FEBRUARY 19 – MARCH 20
The only thing that can be said about you dreamers is that you appear even more attractive when angry. You are very sensitive to others’ feelings, so you rarely hurt them. But when others tend to hurt you, then things take a nasty turn. You will yell and use harsh words and feel inclined to shake everything and everyone up. Your creative imagination is at its best when angry, and you tend to get pretty dramatic. When upset, you refuse to listen to reason and wish to be left alone. But once you calm down, you repent your tantrums and seek forgiveness. SO nobody can be upset with you for too long.
2. Whisper to each other.
3. Cook for each other.
4. Walk in the rain.
5. Hold hands.
6. Buy gifts for each other.
7. Roses.
8. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're
together.
9. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
10. Write poetry for each other
11. Hugs are the universal medicine.
12. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean
it.
13. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
14. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Do not lie.
15. Spend every second possible together.
16. Look into each other's eyes.
17. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love
her, and kiss her lightly.
18. When in public, don't flirt with each other.
19. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
20. Buy her a ring.
21. Sing to each other.
22. Always hold her around her hips/sides.
23. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.
24. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)
25. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over
your heart.
26. Dance together.
27. Let your girl fall asleep with her head in your lap.
(It looks real cute)
28. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to
look in a mirror to read it.
29. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes
30. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to
call and say I love you.
31. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about
them.
32. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
33. Always tell her how pretty she looks.
34. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.
35. Be Prince Charming to her parents.(Brownie Points)
36. Brush her hair out of her face for her.
37. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)
38. Go to church/pray/worship together.
39. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.
40. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice.
41. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.
42. Make sacrifices for each other.
43. Really love each other, or don't stay together.
44. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren't
thinking about them, and make sure they know it.
45. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
46. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
47. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
48. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
49. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.
50. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say,
"Sweet dreams."
ARIES MARCH 21 – APRIL 20
1. HOW BAD IS YOUR TEMPER ACCORDING TO YOUR HOROSCOPE
Nothing seems to ruffle you more than a lack of discipline, disloyalty and decorum. But Arians are also known to go into a rage very easily when challenged. Those of you who have been on the receiving end of the Aries temper know that if not calmed down they can even get violent. But one thing is certain if the opponent remains calm and does not react to their outburst, Arians cool down very fast. They are also the first to apologize, which makes them easier to forgive.
TAURUS APRIL 21 – MAY 20
You are generally quiet and have control over your emotions. It is difficult to predict what will upset you, so when you do lose your cool, people don’t know how to react. Your temper is like that of a raging bull, and anyone trying to pacify you will be the first one to get a verbal bashing. You generally get upset when you are concerned or when people accuse you of doing something wrong. You also hate being reminded about mistakes you’ve made in the past. You also have the potential to be terribly vindictive if rubbed the wrong way.
GEMINI MAY 21 – June 29
You are recognized by your cheerful disposition and your jovial nature is easily susceptible to anger. In fact, you are the best person to have around when there is an ugly scene at a party you can bring the warring factions together quite diplomatically. But when you lose cool, you yell and scream and will not listen to reason. You must have the last word in a wordy duel. Your capacity to argue aggressively is matched only by your seductive charm.
CANCER JUNE 21 – JULY 21
Considering how charming, caring and kind you are, you dislike unpleasant scenes, much less creating one yourself. You have great tolerance and rarely get provoked into losing your temper. If someone is unreasonable or trying to create trouble, you are more likely to walk away quietly. But that does not mean you do not have a temper. When angry, in your effort to control your emotions, you tremble, your hands get sweaty and sometimes you fumble for words. Tears roll down your eyes easily and the opponent is touched by your innocence and will seek an apology immediately.
LEO JULY 22 – AUGUST 21
If anyone has total control over their emotions, it is you. But then, you can be described as stiff, cold and uncaring. You are known to lack spontaneity but you really don’t care about opinions. You don’t like to create scenes and will never accept invitations to a party where you suspect the presence of an unruly lot. But your very presence seems challenging to some and they take vicarious pleasure in your disquiet. When angry you can use critical language. A dressing down can humiliate your opponent, causing a strain between both of you forever.
VIRGO AUGUST 22 – SEPTEMBER 21
Most of you are gentle and have full control over your emotions but those of you given to temper tantrums can certainly get violent. When see things with rage, you yell and shout and tend to break things lying close at hand. You can even harm yourself by banging your hands on a glass top table or wall. You should never get into any argument, for you are a sore loser. You feel that others are trying to persecute you and don’t quite respect your opinions. When hurt, you can also hold grudges forever.
LIBRA SEPTEMBER 22 – OCTOBER 22
Did someone say that you are the charmers of the zodiac? Well, it’s true. Few have ever seen you ruffled or angry. You are very conscious of your image, and you believe that anger distorts your face and personality. You also think you are above things like anger. But wait before you get into self-congratulatory mood. Your family or those very close to you know you better. You have an unmatched temper amongst all the zodiac signs, and what makes it worse is your capacity to justify it.
SCORPIO OCTOBER 23 – NOVEMBER 21
Of course you don’t lose your cool. But your very demeanor (manner) projects haughtiness (arrogance, pride), pride and grand disdain (disregard) for lesser mortals (human). Others are often found saying that anger sits on your nose and you are raring to give your piece mind to the first person who try to be funny with you. You are selective in the choice of your friends, and have a low tolerance for the superfluous (extra) types. Your tongue-lashing (attack) is generally in a soft hissing tone for when you scream, your voice tends to get shrill and loud and you do hate drawing attention to yourself! When upset, you are angrier with yourself for having shown weakness, for the last thing that Scorpio wants to show is being out of control.
SAGITTARIUS NOVEMBER 22 – DECEMBER 20
You are insensible and generally have no complete control over your emotions. You do get angry quickly and others marvel at your anger levels even when provoked. Actually, you get tongue-tied when angry and you will remove your anger waiting for the other person to calm down. Then you will reason with your opponent and convince the other person in a very gentle manner that the whole thing was just his mistake. You’re also likely to totally sever ties with someone when you’re upset with them.
CAPRICORN DECEMBER 21 – JANUARY 19
Few will believe that a hardcore practical and materialistic person like you is capable of sensitivity and genuine emotions. You project a hard exterior but are actually very sensitive, a trait you successfully hide from others. You can see thing with anger but will not betray your feelings. But then, there are times that even you cannot control your temper. Under such circumstances you can shout and scream, more with frustration at the situation than with anger at any particular person. Your outbursts can shock others and can make them feel guilty too.
AQUARIUS JANUARY 20 – FEBRUARY 18
You are noble and kind and dislike losing control over your emotions. It is very rare for you to get angry. You are also the pacifier in situations that involve arguments. It is always your endeavor to be perfect and socially correct in your behavior and attitude, but if misunderstood and slighted you can give in to an angry outburst. You will shout and scream and then walk out from the scene. You cannot easily forget the situation and will be bitter about it for a long time.
PISCES FEBRUARY 19 – MARCH 20
The only thing that can be said about you dreamers is that you appear even more attractive when angry. You are very sensitive to others’ feelings, so you rarely hurt them. But when others tend to hurt you, then things take a nasty turn. You will yell and use harsh words and feel inclined to shake everything and everyone up. Your creative imagination is at its best when angry, and you tend to get pretty dramatic. When upset, you refuse to listen to reason and wish to be left alone. But once you calm down, you repent your tantrums and seek forgiveness. SO nobody can be upset with you for too long.
50 most romantic things to do with your Girlfriend/Boyfriend1. Watch the sunset together.
2. Whisper to each other.
3. Cook for each other.
4. Walk in the rain.
5. Hold hands.
6. Buy gifts for each other.
7. Roses.
8. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're
together.
9. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
10. Write poetry for each other
11. Hugs are the universal medicine.
12. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean
it.
13. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
14. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Do not lie.
15. Spend every second possible together.
16. Look into each other's eyes.
17. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love
her, and kiss her lightly.
18. When in public, don't flirt with each other.
19. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
20. Buy her a ring.
21. Sing to each other.
22. Always hold her around her hips/sides.
23. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.
24. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)
25. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over
your heart.
26. Dance together.
27. Let your girl fall asleep with her head in your lap.
(It looks real cute)
28. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to
look in a mirror to read it.
29. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes
30. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to
call and say I love you.
31. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about
them.
32. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
33. Always tell her how pretty she looks.
34. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.
35. Be Prince Charming to her parents.(Brownie Points)
36. Brush her hair out of her face for her.
37. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)
38. Go to church/pray/worship together.
39. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.
40. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice.
41. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.
42. Make sacrifices for each other.
43. Really love each other, or don't stay together.
44. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren't
thinking about them, and make sure they know it.
45. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
46. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
47. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
48. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
49. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.
50. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say,
"Sweet dreams."
Monday, February 12, 2007
Maafkan AKU kerana ketelanjuran diriMU
Bunyinya pelik bukan?
Ada antara kita yg bila orang lain buat silap pada diri kita, kita akan marah dan memaki sekuatnya. "Nyah kau", "Berambus" dan... "Babi... Sial punya manusia". Tapi ramai juga yg lebih baik.. Ramai juga yg pemaaf. Adakah kita di antaranya?
Walaupun golongan kedua tadi, menyepikan diri, sama ada sedar atau tidak, adakalanya mereka akan tetap menyimpan perasaan sukar tadi di dalam hati mereka. Dan perasaan tadi akan menjadi dendam dan kemarahan jika ia tidak dapat dikawal dengan baik.
Senyap belum tentu sepi selamanya.
Yg menjadi masalah ialah, bila orang lain yg membuat silap. Atau memulakan sesuatu yg telah menyalakan api. Tidak pula meminta atau menghulurkan salam tanda maaf? Kenapa? Adakah dengan sebab satu pihak menyepikan diri dan tunduk seperti mengalah akan mengesahkan yg mereka itu kalah? Adakah kerana pihak lain tertunduk maka kita katakan. Tak perlu kita buat apa-apa dan miliki apa yg si bisu tinggalkan?
Jangan ego. Jangan keras kepala. Mungkin insan yg menyepikan diri tadi lebih keras hatinya dan lebih sadis kata-katanya bila dia menyuarakan perasaannya. Dan ini, pastinya akan memalukan dan menyakitkan hati orang yg telah menyakitkan hatinya. Dan pastinya, letusan perasaan yg berlaku lebih menyulitkan keadaan.
Biar aku bagi contoh. Contoh mudah yg mudah untuk diterima akal dan pemikiran manusia yg senteng. Maaf kalau contohnya sangat panjang...
M, meninggalkan A. Untuk pergi kepada O. Mungkin sebab O lebih bulat dan lebih dengan dengan M. So mereka mesra. So A, duduk terkontang-kanteng (betulkan ejaan aku), memikirkan kesedihan. Tak selera makan. Tiada mood dan sebagainya. Tapi, tak pula A memaki O atas alasan merampas M darinya. Mungkin, kononnya, A taknak M terasa hati. Dan masih berharap pada M untuk kembali padanya (Jaga saham la ni).
A sedih. Nangis-nangis.. M bergelak ketawa. "O o... you hensem. You pandai jaga I. You tahu nak bukak pintu kereta untuk I. Tapi dulu, A tak pandai bukak pintu kereta untuk I.". Si O tersenyum bangga. A masih lagi memendam perasaan. Tak pernah pula dia maki. Bukan pada M atau pada O. Dia hanya tertunduk menahan perasaan sedih dan mendoakan orang yg tersayang bahagia.
Tapi berakhir dengan O meninggalkan M. Dan M masih lagi membenci A. Klimaksnya... A mengenyuarakan perasaannya. Pada M dan pada O. Kemudian...
Hal ini juga melibatkan orang lain. Kawan-kawan mereka. Mungkin atas alasan tertentu. Ye lah, mungkin kawan A sakit hati atas tindakan M. Tak salah juga kalau kawan M dan O (sebab ni kes kawan rampas awek kawan la ni), pun turut sakit hati. Jadi, atas dasar kesian dekat kawan. Mereka, yg sakit hati dan terasa dengan tindakan M dan O atas apa alasan mereka pun, hanya berdiam diri. Cukup untuk meluahkan sekali. Tapi tak pernah lagi. Alasan mereka. Biarlah persahabatan yg sekian lama ini kekal abadi.
Pinjam kata-kata kawan aku...
Kadang kala, perasaan dan dendam akan tersimpan macam kentut. Semakin disimpan semakin membusut perutnya. Dah la tu. Yg di simpan adalah kentut busuk yg tak menyenangkan.
Tapi siapa boleh tahan kentut sepanjang hari bukan? So kita lepaskan. Mungkin, ramai yg memilih untuk kentut dengan perlahan. Masih lagi baunya menusuk hidung. Ada pula yg kentutnya kuat, bergegar kerusi, tapi tidak berbau.
Tapi, kalau dah perasaan dan dendam yang di simpan. Tak syak lagi. Yg keluar ialah gas yang berbau dan bunyi yg kuat sekali. Dan orang yg pernah membuat dirinya menyendiri tadi (M dan O), pasti akan terkena habuannya.
Jadi...
Jadi jika kita jadi M dan O, adakah logik kita nak salahkan A atas gas yg dilepaskan? Atau nak salahkan kawan-kawan mereka juga atas tindakan mereka? Adakah terlalu bijak bagi mereka untuk menyalahkan orang lain yg pernah mereka sakitkan hati semata-mata orang lain tadi menyatakan kekecewaan mereka sebelum ini. Mungkin, sudah sampai giliran mereka pula yg terpalit dengan lumpur dibadan.
Maaf. Perlukah org yg di tinggalkan dan ditipu ini yg meminta maaf dari org yg menipu? Mana logiknya?
Apakah logik juga kalau si perampas kekasih orang tadi memaki-maki org yg dirampas kekasihnya tadi sebab dia merampas kekasih jejaka malang? Apa kepala otaknya sudah ada dilutut? Sekali lagi. Mana logiknya?
Jadi kawan. Lawan. Jika kita yakin pada diri kita. Kita pernah lakukan kesalahan. Pada orang lain. Tak susah kalau kita minta maaf. Katakan dengan ikhlas. Dan semua kekeliruan dan kekesalan akan hilang. Mungkin, kesannya tetap ada. Kita tidak boleh lupakannya. Tapi, sekurangnya, ikatan yang pernah terjalin di antara kawan-kawan, tidak akan luntur.
Selagi kita mendabik dada. Mengatakan diri kita ini betul dari segala segi. Maka, kita akan tetap kalah. Kalah pada diri kita sendiri. Sesungguhnya, tuhan lebih mengetahui, siapa yang benar siapa yang salah. Dan sebenarnya tak susah kalau kita merendahkan diri untuk meminta maaf atas kesalahan kita.
Buat kawan yang lain. Adakalanya, seseorang yg kita kenal tak mungkin akan kenal kita selamanya. Ia menyakitkan. Ia memeritkan. Tapi, jangan risau. Mutiara yg akan tetap berharga biar di berada di dalam laut mati. Namun, kaca yang digilap tetap akan diketahui harganya suatu masa nanti.
Sekian...
Ada antara kita yg bila orang lain buat silap pada diri kita, kita akan marah dan memaki sekuatnya. "Nyah kau", "Berambus" dan... "Babi... Sial punya manusia". Tapi ramai juga yg lebih baik.. Ramai juga yg pemaaf. Adakah kita di antaranya?
Walaupun golongan kedua tadi, menyepikan diri, sama ada sedar atau tidak, adakalanya mereka akan tetap menyimpan perasaan sukar tadi di dalam hati mereka. Dan perasaan tadi akan menjadi dendam dan kemarahan jika ia tidak dapat dikawal dengan baik.
Senyap belum tentu sepi selamanya.
Yg menjadi masalah ialah, bila orang lain yg membuat silap. Atau memulakan sesuatu yg telah menyalakan api. Tidak pula meminta atau menghulurkan salam tanda maaf? Kenapa? Adakah dengan sebab satu pihak menyepikan diri dan tunduk seperti mengalah akan mengesahkan yg mereka itu kalah? Adakah kerana pihak lain tertunduk maka kita katakan. Tak perlu kita buat apa-apa dan miliki apa yg si bisu tinggalkan?
Jangan ego. Jangan keras kepala. Mungkin insan yg menyepikan diri tadi lebih keras hatinya dan lebih sadis kata-katanya bila dia menyuarakan perasaannya. Dan ini, pastinya akan memalukan dan menyakitkan hati orang yg telah menyakitkan hatinya. Dan pastinya, letusan perasaan yg berlaku lebih menyulitkan keadaan.
Biar aku bagi contoh. Contoh mudah yg mudah untuk diterima akal dan pemikiran manusia yg senteng. Maaf kalau contohnya sangat panjang...
M, meninggalkan A. Untuk pergi kepada O. Mungkin sebab O lebih bulat dan lebih dengan dengan M. So mereka mesra. So A, duduk terkontang-kanteng (betulkan ejaan aku), memikirkan kesedihan. Tak selera makan. Tiada mood dan sebagainya. Tapi, tak pula A memaki O atas alasan merampas M darinya. Mungkin, kononnya, A taknak M terasa hati. Dan masih berharap pada M untuk kembali padanya (Jaga saham la ni).
A sedih. Nangis-nangis.. M bergelak ketawa. "O o... you hensem. You pandai jaga I. You tahu nak bukak pintu kereta untuk I. Tapi dulu, A tak pandai bukak pintu kereta untuk I.". Si O tersenyum bangga. A masih lagi memendam perasaan. Tak pernah pula dia maki. Bukan pada M atau pada O. Dia hanya tertunduk menahan perasaan sedih dan mendoakan orang yg tersayang bahagia.
Tapi berakhir dengan O meninggalkan M. Dan M masih lagi membenci A. Klimaksnya... A mengenyuarakan perasaannya. Pada M dan pada O. Kemudian...
Hal ini juga melibatkan orang lain. Kawan-kawan mereka. Mungkin atas alasan tertentu. Ye lah, mungkin kawan A sakit hati atas tindakan M. Tak salah juga kalau kawan M dan O (sebab ni kes kawan rampas awek kawan la ni), pun turut sakit hati. Jadi, atas dasar kesian dekat kawan. Mereka, yg sakit hati dan terasa dengan tindakan M dan O atas apa alasan mereka pun, hanya berdiam diri. Cukup untuk meluahkan sekali. Tapi tak pernah lagi. Alasan mereka. Biarlah persahabatan yg sekian lama ini kekal abadi.
Pinjam kata-kata kawan aku...
Kadang kala, perasaan dan dendam akan tersimpan macam kentut. Semakin disimpan semakin membusut perutnya. Dah la tu. Yg di simpan adalah kentut busuk yg tak menyenangkan.
Tapi siapa boleh tahan kentut sepanjang hari bukan? So kita lepaskan. Mungkin, ramai yg memilih untuk kentut dengan perlahan. Masih lagi baunya menusuk hidung. Ada pula yg kentutnya kuat, bergegar kerusi, tapi tidak berbau.
Tapi, kalau dah perasaan dan dendam yang di simpan. Tak syak lagi. Yg keluar ialah gas yang berbau dan bunyi yg kuat sekali. Dan orang yg pernah membuat dirinya menyendiri tadi (M dan O), pasti akan terkena habuannya.
Jadi...
Jadi jika kita jadi M dan O, adakah logik kita nak salahkan A atas gas yg dilepaskan? Atau nak salahkan kawan-kawan mereka juga atas tindakan mereka? Adakah terlalu bijak bagi mereka untuk menyalahkan orang lain yg pernah mereka sakitkan hati semata-mata orang lain tadi menyatakan kekecewaan mereka sebelum ini. Mungkin, sudah sampai giliran mereka pula yg terpalit dengan lumpur dibadan.
Maaf. Perlukah org yg di tinggalkan dan ditipu ini yg meminta maaf dari org yg menipu? Mana logiknya?
Apakah logik juga kalau si perampas kekasih orang tadi memaki-maki org yg dirampas kekasihnya tadi sebab dia merampas kekasih jejaka malang? Apa kepala otaknya sudah ada dilutut? Sekali lagi. Mana logiknya?
Jadi kawan. Lawan. Jika kita yakin pada diri kita. Kita pernah lakukan kesalahan. Pada orang lain. Tak susah kalau kita minta maaf. Katakan dengan ikhlas. Dan semua kekeliruan dan kekesalan akan hilang. Mungkin, kesannya tetap ada. Kita tidak boleh lupakannya. Tapi, sekurangnya, ikatan yang pernah terjalin di antara kawan-kawan, tidak akan luntur.
Selagi kita mendabik dada. Mengatakan diri kita ini betul dari segala segi. Maka, kita akan tetap kalah. Kalah pada diri kita sendiri. Sesungguhnya, tuhan lebih mengetahui, siapa yang benar siapa yang salah. Dan sebenarnya tak susah kalau kita merendahkan diri untuk meminta maaf atas kesalahan kita.
Buat kawan yang lain. Adakalanya, seseorang yg kita kenal tak mungkin akan kenal kita selamanya. Ia menyakitkan. Ia memeritkan. Tapi, jangan risau. Mutiara yg akan tetap berharga biar di berada di dalam laut mati. Namun, kaca yang digilap tetap akan diketahui harganya suatu masa nanti.
Sekian...
Sarcastic ?
You Have Your Sarcastic Moments
While you're not sarcastic at all times, you definitely have a cynical edge.
In your opinion, not all people are annoying. Some are dead!
And although you do have your genuine moments, you can't help getting your zingers in.
Some people might be a little hurt by your sarcasm, but it's more likely they think you're hilarious.
What Women Want in a Man
Well with age things change and same do these preferences ...
What Women Want in a Man, Original List (age 22)
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32)
1. Nice looking (prefer hair on his head)
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)
1. Not too ugly (bald head OK)
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)
1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and freshunderwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)
1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)
1. Breathing
2. Doesn't miss the toilet.
What Women Want in a Man, Original List (age 22)
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover
=================================
What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32)
1. Nice looking (prefer hair on his head)
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)
1. Not too ugly (bald head OK)
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)
1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and freshunderwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends
=================================
What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)
1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend
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What Women Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)
1. Breathing
2. Doesn't miss the toilet.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Love n Marriage
Love is holding hands in the street.
Marriage is holding arguments in the street.
Marriage is holding arguments in the street.
Love is a romantic drive.
Marriage is arrive on tops curvy tarmac .
Love is losing your appetite.
Marriage is losing your figure.
Love is sweet nothing in the ear.
Marriage is sweet nothing in the bank.
Tv has no place in love.
Marriage is a fight for remote control.
Love is 1 drink and 2 straws.
Marriage is "Don't you think you've had enough!".
Conclusion: " Love is blind , Marriage is an eye opener!"
Marriage is "Don't you think you've had enough!".
Conclusion: " Love is blind , Marriage is an eye opener!"
My Comment : Yeaaahhh right... Becoz this writer don't really know what the heck marriage is...
Selamat Datang ke Meybenk2u
Testing 1-2-3
Testing 1-2-3
Hallo hallo...
Selamat Datang ke Meybenk2u.blogspot.com
Uhhh... Tetiba takde idea nak cerita apa...
Ada keje lak tu... Nenanti la update. Maybe, just copy-paste je dari email orang. Hehehehe... Bye...
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